One, Eye Contact!
Usually the first contact made with a "Potentially Interesting
Person" (from this point forward they will be referred to as "PIPs")
is eye contact. There are a few different types of eye contact.
There is the "Across the Room" eye contact, the "In Passing" eye
contact (when a PIP is passing by you) and the all-important
"Conversational" eye contact. Each is different in many
respects, but similar in that they are all ways of sneaking in
communication without words.
In order for that contact to have the desired impact, it must be
delivered well. It is fun and easy when you know how. Perfecting
this ability will be incredibly useful for you in meeting and
attracting quality men!
So you're at the 7-Eleven, a restaurant or club, the market or
any public place where you see a PIP. How do you get from hmmm?.
. . TO HIM! Often in these situations, you'll need to make eye
contact before a conversation can begin.
When making this kind of eye contact, remember that you are
trying to convey a message with your eyes. People have told me
that they are no good at eye-contact flirting because they
always end up looking away - when really, this action is in fact
conveying the desired message.
Think about it. If a man stares at you and when you look back at
him he doesn't end up looking away, you feel uncomfortable and
intimidated - more like you're being stalked than flirted with!
A man will also feel uncomfortable if a woman overstays her
The ideal "Across the Room" eye-contact flirt only makes contact
for two or three seconds, and then shyly, must turn away.
Usually this will make you smile, which is again a perfect
communication - friendly and pleasant. It shows you're happy
that he looked back and showed interest in you. Even blushing
works in your favor, so don't try to hide it. In these ways, you
are using your nervous energy to your advantage. It's important
that you let him catch you looking back at him. Subconsciously,
this tells him you are interested. If he doesn't catch you
looking back at him, he may decide you are not interested. Then
he may not be able to get up the nerve to come over and start a
conversation with you.
Side note: If he's looking at you when you look back at him,
that's a pretty good sign he is interested in you.
If he isn't looking at you, that's not necessarily a sign that
he's not interested in you. In a situation where you have the
time, this entire sequence of looking, looking away and looking
back, should repeat itself a few times before you move forward.
This kind of eye-contact flirting is most effective in a
restaurant, club, or in line at an amusement park or the DMV.
Use it in any situation where you and the PIP are going to be in
the same place for a while.