The Big, Bad Breakup
You know how they always say that breaking up is hard to do. I
know offhand that it is true. Especially now that I just broke
up with my boyfriend. But let me tell you, there IS hope! This
article is mainly for girls, since I am in fact a girl, but I
hope that you guys out there might also find it interesting.
Even though I'm not all the way over him, I know some good tips
that I have heard through my years.
Ok, so it just happened, the guy you thought was the absolute,
greatest, most AWESOME guy in the world, breaks up with you, or
you dump him. No matter what the reason it still really hurts. I
mean how much time did you spend with him? Probably a lot! So do
you know what the first step is? CRY, I mean let it all rip, go
into your room, be with a close friend, whatever, just as long
as you feel comfortable crying! Think of every little detail and
just cry, you will feel so much better. But whatever you do,
make sure you DON'T call him, I know that it is hard but your
chances of getting over him go way down if you keep in contact
with him during the "mourning period." Now don't think that you
need to be in school bawling your head off, I'm sure you know
the appropriate place.
So now that you are done bawling (which by the way doesn't go as
fast as this article is moving) Put everything away that reminds
you of him. Don't throw it away, there may be stuff that you
want to keep, and now really isn't the best time to be sorting
through the love letters because you probably feel like putting
them up a certain place... but that's a whole different story!
After putting all of that stuff away you won't forget him
probably, hang out with friends, try to be in situations where
you can smile and be yourself. No matter what a lot of people
say most people are a little bit different when with a person
you like because you want to make good impressions. If you
aren't feeling the best when you are alone, just write
everything down about how you feel and what you miss. One thing
that really works to help you get through it is write down
everything that you couldn't stand at all! I mean if he chewed
his fingernails, or ate with his fingers, anything like that.
Keep it somewhere so when you think about how much you miss him
you will remember everything you don't miss!
One big mistake that many people make is talking bad about their
ex, it really doesn't make the other person feel the best when a
person that they really did care about says mean stuff about
them behind their back. Keep it in your journal all the bad
things, and only tell your best friends your true feelings, the
ones you know won't say a word!
Another mistake that many people make is concentrating on all
the things that went wrong, the should haves, could haves, wish
I hads, and would haves. But you can't change that. So
concentrate on the future, you can't change what you have done,
but you can change what you do! That's always nice to know!
After a couple of weeks things should start to get better, if
they don't try talking with an adult, this may have triggered
major feelings in you and can't be handled on your own. Just
remember that it was probably a good learning experience and
that there are MANY other fish in that sea!